Optimal Human Wellbeing As A Guiding Principle Of Good
Universal Human Truths
Human Flourishing
Guided adaptation
Conscious evolution
Intentional Living
Wellbeing Optimization
Fully Functioning body
Be “good” in the roles you occupy.
What are the fundamental goals of the role and how do you want to achieve them.
Control and understanding of ones mind. Not to operate from reactivity and defence, programming and habit. But from awareness, feeling realty in the present.
Access to an environment that enables the regulation of the body, mind and social order.
Use AI to find what is the optimal social structure, physical and mental structure for human flourishing.
Occupying roles would be my version of “have a family/community”. That is the old way of thinking. The new way is that we have the data on the key to longevity and science says it is lots of pleasant light interactions with people you see regularly, like people at checkouts. And also having people to confide in…what is the exact optimal number…we probably know. No wafty “we need friends to thrive” bullshit. Specific. We need XYZ from someone in the role of mother, xyz from n number of people who are close enough to confide in. We need n interactions with acquaintances, and we need to see n amount of new faces a day. What is the formula for a social structure that will provide optimal human wellbeing.
Being a human doesnt need to be a mystical accident of chance like it is assumed to be. EG. My friend group growing up in my teenage years, which scarred me for life, were the people who sat around the same table as me on the first day of school. There was no awareness or intention in the organisation of need. The result was a lifetime of harm that I am paying a therapist to help fix. Doesn’t feel optimal for wellbeing.
I am not looking for a solution to any harm. That is where things are going wrong now. Too many people are trying to mitigate harm in all the wrong ways. But currently we aren’t directed towards optimal human wellbeing. If we were, there would still be hardship, but we would be optimised to manage it with resilience rather than let it blindly shape us in ways the whole of society has to deal with for years to come.
But if we knew you need XYZ, as analysed by AI to be scientifically, mythologically, culturally and religiously aware, there would be a simple goal to work towards, not some magical unspoken sensation you are supposed to experience that lets you know when you have the balance perfect for you. No. We are individuals, but there are underlying truths our bodies and minds need in order to be free to be individuals.
All dogs are different, but you dont give any dog chocolate. All dogs are different but they all have to go for walks. All dogs are different, but they all need somewhere safe to sleep.
So, all humans are individuals, but we all need to eat whole, real food. All humans are individuals, but there is a state of mind and body that is optimally comfortable, that is holistic wellbeing, that is universal. On top of that we all have experiences and knowledge, opinions and thoughts. But if your foundation is ego, defences, unhealthy coping mechanisms and a disordered personality and body, your “authenticity”, the you who is individual, will be shaped by your rocky foundations, not from your experience of reality. Reality being what you experience when your nervous system is regulated, when you mind is empty, when your senses are open and alert, when your consciousness is focused on feeling the information being input into your system without turning it into words or a story, completely present in the very millisecond, the moment. When you are feeling the moment, mentally and physically, without words, that is the closest you will ever get to experiencing reality. The only way to remove “you”, the world, your conditioning, bias, judgement, experience from what you are observing or experiencing is to be able to access the blank slate of awareness. That you isnt in between your experience and your mind anymore. It is seperate, to the side. It is a large language model desperate to consume data to do its job. But its job isnt nessersary when you want to experience reality. You see how much it is a distortion, an overlay, the simulation. The whole linguistic layer seems so flimsy when you can sink into reality. It is such a poor representation. And infact giving processing power to the LLM means the feeling of reality subsides, The balance of words and stories in the LLM become the mood.
The universal questions are not universal. They are a linguistic creation. There is no sensation of god. There is only concept. There is no sensation of pretty much anything. The search for meaning….oh yeah? Point to it in your body. What do you feel when you remove the knowledge that the word “meaning” exists? What happens in the deep meditative state beyond words into reality, there is no conceptual wondering, there is no considering meaning, you are full of meaning. There is no space or need for flimsy silliness like man made concepts in the aether when one can feel reality. I don’t think any of our leaders, politicians, speakers, know anything of reality. They are so far from being an empty vessel feeling the moment, it is obvious in every facet of everyday life. Everyone is farther from reality now maybe than ever. Society is. Country structures are. Everything is so clouded by words and concepts, the flimsy layer of the unreal has become a gelatinous goo. Too thick and enclosed around everything and everyone, there is no access to reality.
I am sitting in my bus writing this. In some grey pants (the english kind) and a home made bra top. Sweating. Dropping in and out of the experience of reality in order to express it. It is 85 degrees, April, 2024. Apparently the world is falling apart. I am overlooking an off road trail with luxury off road toys going past all day. I can dip into the unreality. It is real. It is a zoom in and out analogy here. The skyscrapers in New York are very real and very much dominate the every day of people there. But if you zoom out to see the whole of america, they don’t exist, you cannot see them, they do not factor into your consideration, but they are there, they do exist. So the simulation layer, when you are on the ground, in the city, bombarded by life, you are subsumed by the gelatinous goo, there is nothing else, it is reality, zoom out and it becomes a flimsy layer that floats above reality
Anyway this is finding first principles. I am so sick to death of men talking about women.
The female body is not the same animal as the male. Anything that will optimise for human well being will consider both male and female bodies and minds. Equal but different. Yin Yang. One in the other, intertwined into one. We are all both in the sense we are the same species and some things (like dogs no chocolate) are universal. The natural order is that for women to create, men have to hold space. Today’s world feels like they have turned their spears inward into the space they are supposed to be protecting, ignoring all the external attacks affecting all of us. Women are now hyper defensive. And if we aren’t, we will get hurt. That is the patriarchy. The protection of the male body, the centering of their dysfunctional needs. Scarcity mindset enacts most greatly onto the thing they desire most, women. Own us. Control us. Limit us. All in an attempt to keep us. What they don’t realise is we need to be free and safe to play, then we can overflow with creation. Creation being love, nesting, reproducing, producing, nourishing, connecting. I do not have “traditional” female creation desires. I do not wish to be a mother. I create ideas, art, my reality, a rich internal world, an intentional life. The desire to create is cause I am female. I need to feel safe and abundant to want to write, or make art, I need that cup to be overflowing. A man or child isn’t necessary, but I have to be aware I have the need and how it suits me to fulfil it. Women’s nesting instinct has been manipulated to sell us useless tat. Decorative items. A lot of plastic. That seems to be having a negative effect on female hormonal health, reducing real wellbeing, while seemingly increasing standard of living. It is the real good under the perceived good that we can unify around.
Mastery of the body and mind.
Fulfilment of community roles and social formula.
Curiosity leading learning.
The accommodation of the female body and mind into social and physical structures.
Unifying central narrative. Of the land. Of our species. Of reality. Of wonder. Of abundance, awe and wonder.
Intentional evolution – orienting ourselves towards optimal wellbeing.
Playful non formalised movement.
A physical connection to land and nature.
It doesn’t seem hard at all. In fact, scarily simple.
AI Edit of Sex Post Transcript
“Sex positivity and acceptance of sex work were never meant to be about people openly embracing their unconventional kinks while performing societal roles that perhaps shouldn’t be filled by such individuals. The original intention was different from what it has become. What I was advocating for was the acceptance that some people genuinely enjoy sex, and that doesn’t automatically make them bad people as long as they act ethically. Having a healthy attitude toward sex doesn’t inherently make someone morally deficient.
Sex is a fundamental part of life, and too many people feel shame or discomfort about their own sexuality. I believe everyone should be happy and comfortable with this aspect of being human. People who enjoy sex should be able to pursue careers that are unrelated to their sex lives without judgment. For instance, someone who enjoys certain kinks shouldn’t be a politician or hold a position that involves working with children. It’s essential to recognize the full spectrum of human sexuality and understand that none of it inherently makes someone a bad person.
However, there are boundaries. Engaging in certain behaviors publicly, like indulging in specific kinks, can be problematic. It’s okay to kink-shame someone if their actions are harmful or inappropriate. When I chose to work as a cam model, I understood that it would impact my ability to work with children. But the current state of affairs is disheartening. Sex positivity was meant to promote healthy attitudes and happiness, not to justify harmful behavior.
Ultimately, it’s crucial to find what’s right for you, embrace your preferences, and not let them negatively affect others. Be honest, set your own moral standards, and strive to be a decent person. After all, everyone has sex, and how central it is to your life doesn’t define your character.”
How I strive to experience the world.
How I strive to experience the world.
How I see other peoples insides.
Therapy doesn’t work, porn harms people, feminism has ruined society, the culture is the problem. NO. The actual ideas are solid. It is LOW IQ people interacting with, misusing, misinterpreting or doing crap versions of the idea. It is the commodification of low IQ interpretations or ability. Not the idea or system itself.
You Are Your Body
Everything you think, experience, do, know, feel, IS your body. That is all it is. There is no mystical smoke animating otherwise dead flesh. All there is is your body. Without it you know nothing, think nothing, feel nothing. You do not exist. Everything you think the world is, that you have seen or learnt, is IN YOUR BODY. It is the ONLY reality. You cannot know what it is like to think, without a body. You don’t feel anything. Emotions are language simulations overlaid a PHYSICAL sensation. You are ONLY your body.
The worst part about having Asperger’s is everyone else assumes you’re a narcissist.
The worst part about having Asperger's is everyone else assumes you're a narcissist.
— Sky Smith (@SkySmith_x) January 17, 2024
Why Elevate Humility? Its Not A Real Thing.
Not attacking RFK here. But it is yet another example of language being the simulation and manipulation. “All of us have to approach life with humility”…..Why? “That means extending compassion and kindness”. Why does a individual need to be humble, kind or have compassion? They are made up words. They dont represent a universal physical reality. Why is a person better if they are humble?! Why is a person hiding their light kind to other people? What the FUCK is KIND? It isnt a material reality. Its a judgement. As is compassion. Compassion to me, may be hell to you. What you think is kind may trample all over my boundaries. Do not let people use these kinds of word to shape our reality. That is the simulation. There is NO SUCH THING as humility. It is a denial. It is not an action. Its a judgement on people who like themselves. Why? Why? It makes NO SENSE. Why must we treat people in a way a linguistic concept describes? If you want to do a practical act for someone, you are doing the act, not being kind. You are getting groceries, it doesn’t need a judgement of kind just cause you are buying them for someone else. You just are. Compassion, is subjective, you cannot call for unity over subjective feelings. I could do this for infinity with many words you think have solid meaning and shape society. They are nothing. Its an illusion. Do not the simulation control your physical experience of the world. https://x.com/RobertKennedyJ/RobertKennedyJr/status/1746921184212472056
Language Consciousness
Without language, is there consciousness? To me there only seems to be awareness and memory. Memory, which is the back catalogue of moments of awareness.
I had so much space and silence inside me on the drive home. My body feels so still and aligned. When I move I have constant ideas or complete awareness. When I come to communicate either experience, it seems so insignificant, ephemeral, small, compared to the sensation inside me. It is hard writing about language. But when the concepts flow through me it seems so obvious and simple. Can language capture the experience of awareness? How can “nothing” be so full of everything. Everything is nothing. In nothing is everything. To feel everything without language is nothing. It is vast space. Silence. Comfort. Euphoria. Contentment. Awareness. It is that what is right now, is enough. It is more than enough. It is over flowing. It holds within it all the individuals and their machinations, all the way down to ants, microbes, bacteria. And out into the stillness of every rock, tree, sunset, galaxy and infinity of the universe. Still on our scale. We are still on a microbe scale. With no judgement or language it all just exists. Everything. In your awareness. But there cannot be a why. Why involves langue. Awareness does not. You can marvel in awe without questioning why, or how.
When you experience language free, mind body harmony, with your environment, is that the same level of consciousness that an animal has? Is language the only difference between us and chimps. Chimps are selfish cause they don’t have language to reason. Reason to override acting out of awareness. Awareness moves into to consciousness with language to reason.
Analogies
Sex today is as if we are living in a future where the only sport is basketball. In a future where we have lost all memory and record of the range of sports we currently have, there is only basketball. When someone says “Do you do/like/enjoy sport?” they mean basketball. They mean dribbling a ball, on a court and trying to throw it in a basket on a stick. There is a range of ways to engage in basketball, you can play alone in your yard. You can be a world famous professional player whos’ whole life is basketball, playing to a ever increasing level of complexity. But there is no golf, football, soccer, gymnastics, etc. All the types of movement involved in any other sport is forgotten. This, is where we are at with sex today. Over the millennia, social conditioning and cultural norms and rules have slowly eroded our knowledge of the potential for sex and intimacy. We have forgotten how to move our bodies together in ways that create intimacy and community. We have forgotten how to communicate through our bodies. We have lost the cyclical nature of the female sexuality. We have lost the balance that roots our species, our sexual capacity. The first principle of being human is that we are sexed animals whos whole being has been designed over millions of years to reproduce. It is our guiding light and life force. It is why we are here and the only way we will survive. And yet everyone is playing basketball and the whoile world is becoming sick. Our bodies and minds deformed by the focus on basketball. The exclusion of people who don’t like basketball or the soul crushing experience of submitting to a game you don’t really want to play but do it anyway, over and over again. We are going mad. We are lacking something so core to our physcal experience of being human and we wonder why our minds are suffereing.
Dogs in hats playing poker, is the human condition.
Meditation. Imagine language doesnt exist. It is that simple. You don’t need to get rid of “thoughts”, you just dont allow yourself to form words. Imagine a white board, and erase the words as they form. Sensation exists The present moment exists. Concepts, thoughts, questions, and rumination, cannot exist without words. Keep forgetting language. What is left? Grasp onto it and sink into it. It expands exponentially. Without language you are able to experience awareness like an animal. Like a big cat or dog lying in the sun. Not asleep, but not alert. Enjoying the sensatgion of the warm sun on their fur Enjoying the comfort and contentment of existing. No judgement on the moment, just the physical sensations of the body.
The Foundations Of Being Human
Simple. Not spiritual. Reality. Not myth.
Sexed Animal.
Correct Posture, muscle connection, aesthetics and symetry. Interoception. Embodiment. Feeling like a natural animal.
Whole foods.
Understand freedom and discipline.
Play
Experience space.
Master the mind. Control perspective. Radiate, not react. Expand your energy rather than receive and react.
If you Haven’t…then Don’t Fucking Speak To Me
There is a reason I speak about things. I know. From experience. First hand. Many more truths than you can comprehend. Unless you too have the same quantity and quality of first hand experiences, you have absolutely nothing to say, or offer me. I’ll add your data to my information pool, but it won’t change anything I have to say, or disprove anything I have done and know. You are nothing. You are a point in an expansive data set that is my brain. So if you want to scream your differeing opinion or attack me about how I’m wrong, link me to your 15 years of writing, research and relevant experience, or set up your own platform and articulate your points, create, cause you cannot effect what I make or do, your experience of the world is up to you. I see your projection and low IQ takes. You are all midwits, loosers, fakes. Fuck off. I don’t care if no one ever gets to see, or benefit, from what I know, from being me.
If you haven’t fucked 1000 men, 60% in a professional, legal, brothel setting, you cannot talk to me about male sexuality, sex, the human body, commodification, capitalism, female sexuality, society, sex work, porn, intimacy, peoples insides, intimate conversations, what men only show during sex, mental health, the human animal, fundamental needs.
If you haven’t been a sex worker for 13+ years, you cannot talk to me about sex work, porn, male sexuality, toxic cultures, men, social attitudes and feminism.
If you haven’t been an artist or writer for 25+ years, you cannot speak to me about free speech, creativity, art, merit, philosiphy, ideology, feminism, society, culture or masculinity.
If you haven’t lived in more countries than me, 3, then you cannot speak to me about international observations, politics, the western condition or society.
Unless you have met 100,000 + people from every corner of the globe, you cannot talk to me about people, personality, patters, society, culture, humanity and cilization, relationships, behaviour, or stereotypes.
Unless you have spent 5+ years living in isolation, you cannot talk to me about the human condition, mental health, lonliness, society, culture, politics, enlightement, spirituality, history, civilization of the battle of the sexes.
Unless you have lived, unhoused in the wilderness for 3+ years, you cannot speak over me about nature, the human animal, the physical body, men, the conciousness of flying insects, energy, reality, space, time, or anything in the physical the universeve.
If you are not in the top 2% of IQ, you cannot know anything I do not, you cannot see the world or even comprehend what I know.
Unless your brain is a hyperconnected AI network, you cannot comment on the patterns in the world, in people and in society and culture.
Unless you have rebuilt your body from scratch, recoonnected to every single muscle and fiber in your being and restructured your posture, symetry and aesthetiscs, you cannot tell m anything about the body, the human animal, the mind body connection, being embodied or the female physical enlightenment.
Unless you have had 300+ hours of intensive therapy, I do not want to hear what you have to say on mental health, trauma, parenting, personality, ego, enlightenment, embodiment, mind body connection, their sexuality, their body, narratives and conditioning.
Unless you have been persuing an alternative path, conciously, in your number one special interest, operating outside of narratives and biases for 16+ years, you have nothing to say to me on sex, feminism, masculinity, the body, male female duality, freedom, enlightenment.
If you have not lived for many years as a ego free, natural human animal, I don’t repect anything you have to offer me.
I am over pretending to care that being me makes other people feel bad. I am a high IQ, unique, well educatedd, upper middle class, artist, and I’m fucking proud to be me, to know what I do and see the world the way I do. If you disagree with me, kindly fuck off and climb your own mountain. I’ll seee you and respect you when you raise yourself up to my level on your own path. Until then, you are nothing but a data point in my view from above.
In the Bus
Out with Kitty and Bussy for a reset after my trip to England. A bit lost in life. But finding myself in the spaces. A lot of my struggles can be relieved by soothing my body. Letting it relax, expand, dropping fight or flight responses. Only then can I find the freedom in my humanity.
The God Body
Note: As with many of my writings, this is a one sitting, physical flow. I write from start to finish, without stopping. I only edit for clarity and spelling. This quality of writing doesn’t need any pre thought, mid thought, or post thought. It is the truth coming from my body. It is a joy to flow on what I know. Enjoy.
The reason I know our physical embodiment is the highest enlightenment, is because I have intentionally been working on it myself for the last 9 years. Learning, experimenting, practising. I am almost finished. But that is how it always feels, and how I expect it will feel forever. As I work on my body through massage, focusing on an area, and using isolation, connection, flexing and release, I have gotten to the very roots of my experience on this planet.
I was just working on my calf muscles that lead to a release and re alignment of my left thigh and hip. As I used the massage gun on my hamstring, I remembered when I first changed that part of my body and the ongoing consequences of that. As I massage, I am meditative, not ruminating, focusing on the sensations in my body. Allowing thoughts to arise and pass.
The joy of being this far along my journey is that now, the only thoughts that arise, are the memories, experiences, distorsion, compensation and trauma that was encoded in that part of my physical body.
My hamstring started registering in my mind for, maybe the first time since I was 8, when I pulled it at gymnastics, on the vault, it all flows through my mind like a movie. The emotions attached to the pain I experienced mentally and physically at that time,passed through me, and awareness of sadness, grief, forgiveness, sorrow and release came through. And I am wiped clean. I am connected to that part of my body in a way I havent been aware of before. My thigh feels less like dead meat and more like a leg, I can connect to it. And mentally I feel stronger, able to stand on my own two feet. The strength in my legs that is unable to be accessed due to tensions, imbalances and scars feels available. And the mental strength that it gives me is a release of fear, of imposter syndrome. I don’t have to pretend I have legs, I can feel my legs, I am not pretending to know what I know, I KNOW it. The inner child that was still experiencing pain through the mental interpretation of the physical change in my body that occurred and arrested when I injured it. These stories, memories, emotions, narratives, releases, and revelations come with the territory of connecting to the deepest physicality of your body.
This wasn’t a one off moment. This is what I have been experiencing for years. I have seen everything that has ever happened to me and how it has shaped me. How my physical body has shaped my emotional experience, and how emotional events have shaped my physical body. As I work on them and release them, I feel my body more than ever, my posture is near perfect, my proportions are more aesthetic, I am more symmetrical, I have more muscle development than when I lifted hours a week. And coincidentally enough, mentally I have never felt more stable, content, comfortable being me, healthy,authentic, brave, confident, joyful and full of gratitude for my life than I do now. So when I say the body is the highest, I know.
I know what the body knows, what the mind might be, where consciousness, memory, personality resides, and how entirely one’s perspective of everything is shaped by their physical experiences. I am not theorising or philosophising. This is real. I truly believe true enlightenment is the experience of the world once one has wiped themselves clean of conditioning, encoding and dysfunction, mentally and physically. Too many people in the hunt for enlightenment, higher, spirit, soul, focus entirely on the mind. The body is low. It must be rejected for the mind, and then you reject mind to reach soul. NOPE. How the hell can your mind experience anything devine if the body through which the mind functions, is in dysfunction, with a lifetime of encoding, limiting its potential?
The mental mastery is male. The physical is female. The unification of body and mind is the unification of male and female, yin yang, real enlightenment, god.
Modern society has mistaken the feminine for the emotional not the physical. The emotional is a loss of control of the mind. That coincides with a loss of control of the body. The masculine and the feminine are completely disconnected and out of control. Disembodiment is the new cool. Meat sack is the attitude of the masses towards their bodies. The only way for us to move forward as a species is for the mind and body to be mastered. The only people leading us or making any decisions should be human animals who have mastered their duality and know reality. Reality is what the body and mind experiences when it reaches that state. I don’t think any current enlightenment teachers, speakers, gurus, linen shirt twats are reaching this state as the focus is on raising out of the body, denigrating the physical, looking for something that there is no evidence of that they might experience. Blind to the fact that whatever they experience is mediated through the very body they are trying to escape or denigrate.
Do not strive for a spiritual experience. Strive for a fully physical one.. One where your body and mind is so pure that you can feel the sparkling, vibrating, interconnectedness of reality, and the fact that that which is experiencing the sensation of life, is on a rock, hurtling through a unknown entity for a unknown reason for a unknown period of time with a unknown destination or end, all because at some point, some of those vibrations you can feel lighting up your senses, created the beginnings of matter.
And hey, if I am wrong, do you really think god, your spirit, your soul would be happy with you neglecting the body it chose to incarnate your soul into?! Do you not think there is a reason you have a physical body imbued from the higher? Does God not know what the physical sensations of the functional human body are? Are you wiser than God in how to experience it and treat it? If we are made in the image of god, why denigrate the body and its sensations? Your body is the god body. So treat it like it. In some way, it is your only god, as is the only thing through which you experience reality. Your god is your body mediating the flow of information that your mind processes. I;m sure many people will disagree. If you do, have you done the work on your body for 9 years to know that what I am saying is wrong? Are you really sure of what you can know from the limitations of the body and mind that has shaped all you already know? So before someone says “We are spiritual beings having a physical experience”, just think, are you sure? Does your body know that? How does having a spirit feel in your body? You might just have to get to know your body first to find the answer. And that answer may be what I already know. The body is where you experience transcendence. Transcendence from the simulation of language into the real. The physical. The true you. The truth outside of you. Reality.
Fear Of Life by Alexander Lowen
“There are many roles that people play and many images that they project. There is, for example, the “nice” man who is always smiling and agreeable. “Such a nice man,” people say. “He never gets angry.” The facade always covers its opposite expression. Inside, such a person is full of rage that he dares not acknowledge or show. Some men put up a tough exterior to hide a very sensitive, childlike quality. Even failure can be a role. Many masochistic characters engage in the game of failure to cover an inner feeling of superiority. An outward show of superiority could bring down on them the jealous wrath of the father and the threat of castration. As long as they act like failures they can retain some sexuality, since they are not a threat to her father.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear Of Life
“While the repression of a memory is a psychological process, the suppression of feeling is accomplished by deadening a part of the body or reducing its motility so that feeling is diminished. The repression of the memory is dependent upon and related to the suppression of feeling, for as long as the feeling persists, the memory remains vivid. Suppression entails the development of chronic muscular tension in those areas of the body where the feeling would be experienced. In the case of sexual feeling, this tension is found in and about the abdomen and pelvis”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear Of Life
“Since the experience is different for each individual, the tension will reflect that experience. In some persons the whole lower half of the body is relatively immobilized and held in a passive state; in others the muscular tensions are localized in the pelvic floor and around the genital apparatus. If the latter sort of tension is severe, it constitutes a functional castration; for, although the genitals operate normally, they are dissociated in feeling from the rest of the body. Any reduction of sexual feeling amounts to a psychological castration. Generally the person is unaware of these muscular tensions, but putting pressure upon the muscles in the attempt to release the tension is often experienced as very painful and frightening.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear Of Life
“Authenticity is closely related to the voice. The word personality has two different meanings. It is derived from the persona, a mask Greek actors wore to dramatize more clearly the role they were playing. On the other hand, the word persona means “by sound,” per sona. The authentic person can be recognized behind the mask by the sound of his voice. The voice is a major avenue of self-expression, and its quality reflects the richness and resonance of the inner being. When one’s voice is limited because of neck and throat tensions, one’s self-expression is restricted and one’s being is reduced.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear of Life
“The ability to contain excitation or feeling is self-possession. It is the third stage in the therapeutic program. The first two are self-awareness and self-expression. Self-possession is the stage in which the ego functions as the standard-bearer of a self that knows who it is and what it has to do. The self possesses an ego. It is the stage in which the self experiences its being as a fully mature man or woman.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear of Life
“In a recent book, Erich Fromm advances the hypothesis that being is reduced by having. He says, “Only to the extent that we decrease the mode of having, that is, nonbeing-i.e., stop finding security and identity by clinging to what we have, by ‘sitting on it,’ by holding on to our ego and our possessions-can the mode of being emerge.”6 According to Fromm, the two terms, being and having, represent two very different attitudes to life. The having mode is based on possessive relationships. The self is seen as the I that has a wife, a home, a car, a job, even a body. Since the I that has a body is the ego, the having mode is an egocentric position. This mode developed from and depends upon private property, power, and profit. Its focus is upon the individual rather than the community. The being mode, on the other hand, is based on loving, giving, and sharing relationships. In this mode the measure of the self is not in terms of what one owns but how much one gives or loves.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear of Life
“Every chronic muscular tension in the body has associated with it sadness, fear, and anger. Since tension is a restriction of our being, it makes us sad. It also makes us angry to be so limited. And we are frightened to show our sadness or express our anger, so we stay locked in a diminished state of being and tied to our fate.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear of Life
“As a child or animal, he is free but doesn’t know it. As an adult who aspires to be god, he equates freedom with the ability to assert his will. Both positions are equally valid. Freedom in nature is different from freedom in culture. In the latter situation the inability to assert one’s will denotes submission to the will of another. It is a loss of freedom since it is a denial of the right to express one’s feelings. An individual may not have the right to do what he wants, but we insist that he should have the right to say what he wants. In nature or culture, freedom cannot be separated from the right of self-expression.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear of Life
“Once we give up our true self to play a role, we are fated to be rejected because we have already rejected ourselves. Yet we will struggle to make the role more successful, hoping to overcome our fate but finding ourselves more enmeshed in it. We are caught in a vicious cycle that keeps closing in, diminishing our life and being.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear Of Life
“How much easier and more pleasurable life can be when one doesn’t have to make a decision because one’s desire is so clear and strong that it leaves one with no choice in behavior.”
― Alexander Lowen, Fear of Life