We aren’t as resilient as previous generations and the less resilient we become, the less resilient the future generations become. Currently resilience is either taught through abuse, or neglect. Through being a hard ass parent and forcing you to be resilient, which builds resentment. The other way is through neglect, like with me. You learn resilience through not having any skills and then being traumatized and having to learn resilience. Not enough people are taught how to be resilient in a healthy way. It should be standard parenting practice. Our bodies and minds need to be resilient and capable of dealing with reality. Resilience is the skills and mental state to cope with the reality of the world and your life within it, enabling you to thrive and not be swayed by anything outside of you. The strength, understanding and skills to not be subjected to your own emotions and feelings and deal with the constant onslaught of external existential threats we are manipulated to fear, in order to freeze us. Don’t be frozen by feelings. Learn to be resilient so you can be moved to do something to fix the problem, or just live life. Read More "Resilience"
Tinder Bio Advice For Guys
Here you go. When I was deep into the daily scroll, this is the information I would have liked to see, to get a real vibe of someone and not waste time!!! Tinder bio advice: A few examples of what you like, but with range; ie, “Im into dirtbikes, [podcast/tv/media interest], [other activity]. A idea of what youre looking for: ie Just looking/New to this/Im looking for something casual/I love going on dates/I am ready for a relationship/I’m looking for the one….written in your voice. An idea if youre indoorsy or outdoorsy. An idea if you prefer to party or stay home. Something to hint at your personality, if youre funny, a joke. A comment on something you like. Something youre excited about coming up for you. Pictures: Have different angles, some face, some doing stuff. One dimensional pics make it look like youre hiding something. Orrrr if youre just a horny bloke and want to be honest about it… Dick Size Sexual interests Things you’re looking to try/explore/do more of. What you’re looking for: Some cool chick who is down to fuck and act like adults about it. Whether you want to wine and dine her first, or if youre just down for the 69ing.A few examples of what you like, but with range; ie, “Im into dirtbikes, [podcast/tv/media interest], [other activity]. Something to hint at your personality, if youre funny, a joke. A comment on something you like. Something youre excited about coming up for you. Pictures: Have different angles, some face, some doing stuff. One dimensional pics make it look like youre hiding something. Show the damn torso topless doing an activity! Maybe a cheeky nude with a towel hanging off the giant dong!!! Read More "Tinder Bio Advice For Guys"
Is a slur to keep white women, who are sick of the patriarchy forcing them to be quiet about everything and finally got the balls to say something, in their place. In her rage at finally speaking, she is a woman who says the wrong thing and over reacts as most of the time, its a moment where the straw has broke the camels back, and she is speaking her mind for the first time. How dare she?! Fucking Karen. Women cant be angry, or aggressive when she is sick of shit. That’s not for white women. Women can’t have PTSD or trauma that gets triggered by some inconsiderate person invading their lives, especially if everyone else thinks she shouldn’t be triggered by whatever it was. Karen isn’t a light, playful meaningless term. It is yet another tool of the patriarchy to silence a woman who has the audacity to speak her mind, to get angry, to react authentically. Don’t normalize silencing women. Read More "Karen"
Why doesn’t our reports go straight to the right people? It seems a very complex system of getting our experience as performers to anyone who has any control over anything. It’s very concerning that multiple performers will report a glitch and tech will not even know there is a problem. Any chance we could get some transparency with the structure of the system and why anyone we contact seems oblivious to our experience/problems with the site? Read More "Streamate Problems"
BDSM, Power Play and Sexual Reality
As a actual dominant human woman and not a performative domme, i know its not men taking the dominant role all the time. As a 20 year feminist writer, 10 year sex worker and a tantric practitioner I know sex isnt always just PIV. The inclusion on power dynamics, that there even is a dom and sub when it comes to sex, is ingrained patriarchal and socialized conditioning. Power, violence, and psychological play have been injected into the modern definition of sex and kink by men and taken on by women to cope with the position sex has been put in the modern world. Sex has nothing to do with power or pain. Its the patriarchy that introduced that idea to sex. Whether its a woman, man, dog, gender rainbow person doing it, the performance of domination and submission is all about the feelings of power and powerlessness we have in the real world and not about the physical sensations of the sexual act. One can do things like pegging, cei, cuckold, etc, all without humiliation, degradation, abuse, pain or any bdsm shit. Sex is a indulgent pleasure space. Shame, pain and humiliation and power are the brain forcing its way into a physical body space. I thought I liked being submissive in my 20s and that bdsm was a legit thing. I thought pain mixed in with my sex was the norm and meant it was good. Then I moved past that and saw where it comes from. And never will go back. Anything that fetishizes a power dynamic comes from social conditioning and not human animal, sexual reality. I take the lead in all sex. Work or pleasure. Not cause Im Domme or the dominant, but because I have more experience, I know what I like and Im… Read More "BDSM, Power Play and Sexual Reality"