I relate, but as a old feminist, Gender non conforming is the decades old name for it. And what I am. Instead of saying I move through constructed genders, I reject all notions of gender. I don’t perpetuate the stereotypes by saying what I am or am not. Cause if I were to say xyz makes me this or that gender, or gender fluid, then I would be maintaining the concept of gender, not abolishing it all together. Thus I would be condemning others to what I say I am not, while I think I can escape and be free of patriarchal oppression. But we cant get rid of patriarchy by opting out of women-hood. We break the system by being entirely ourself and showing that woman and man can encompass anything. I don’t say I do xyz so I’m not a woman. I say i do xyz and that expands what a women could be, for everyone. Read More "Gender Non Conforming, Never Gender Fluid."
Why I Am A Terf
Why I Am A Terf I never peaked. I never had to. I have been socially, sexually, culturally and individually non conforming my whole life. I never had a label to describe myself. I was just me. Ive fucked women and men. Im not bi. What sex I have doesnt define my sexuality. I wear teenage boys clothes, but I’m not trans or non binary. I am gender non conforming. Im a gender abolitionist. My feminism has always been “Do men do it? Then why the fuck should I? Do men not do it? Then why the fuck shouldnt I?” To me there is no limits on what I can do with my body and mind, and anything I do, isn’t a signifier for an identity or label. In my early 20s I was big on the drag scene in London. Underground club land. I ran a night were drag performance artists would put on extreme, gross performances, all while adopting female signifiers. Despite being a quirky, non conformer, this didnt sit right with me. The likes of Jodie Harsh, performing an extreme version, parodying woman and the female experience, seemed pretty nasty to women. I didnt understand why parodying women was all ok and acceptable. This was 14 years ago. In response I became a tranny with a fanny. If amyone is gonna parody the ridiculousness of female expectations, it should be a woman, not a man!!! So I dressed as a woman, dressed as a man, dressed as a woman. Cause women couldnt dress like a drag queen. Thats gross, over the top, slutty, desperate, looked down on by all. But when a man does it, they get center stage, praise and support. These people were my friends. We never fell out. None of them were claiming to… Read More "Why I Am A Terf"
Different layers of perception.
Nothing is good or bad. Everything just is. Reality. Living in the present. Feeling joy just at existing in my body. I am a human animal. Read More "Different layers of perception."
Black Lives Dont Matter.
Black Lives Dont Matter. There is no need for Pride. Feminism is Fucked. I dont care about FGM. Everyone is already aware of mental health. I am not positive about fat bodies or disfuntion. I dont care about which political party is in power. I dont care about any of these individual things. Cause everything is fucked. And everything is inextricably linked. Everything has unintended consequences that cause more problems when you fix issues individually. Everything is fucked. From the way we structure family, have relationships, parent, school, education, work, food, movement, sex, mental health, nature, animals, money, to evey other thing outside of the reality of our bodies that humans have made utp, is wrong. It is mistakes built on mistakes buld on intentional bad faith control, power, and coercion of the working class. And by working class, i mean anyone who has to work to survive. 99.9% of the human race. We are all oppressed. We are all traumatized. We all have been conditioned and shaped into the domesticated human that is no longer coping or surviving and is dragging the planet and every other species with it. There is no point fixing, focusing, caring about one issue. Cause it wont fix anything. We have to go back. All the way back, to before we started letting individual people with vested interests, make decisions for the masses. The only way t o save the human animal, is to find out what the human animal is and needs. And how to structure a holistic world around our needs to make existence enjoyable rather than the hell that we are currently all surviving. The only way to start is to wipe away everything we know. Everything. Stand in a void. With no past and no future, nothing has happened, nothing… Read More "Black Lives Dont Matter."
Ideas Of Things To Write
write up some of the sex scenarios i do at work to demonstrate feminist sex how i work and how it is female/perforner first practical run throughs of sex run throughs of how to own the room and how to not let a man use your body arguments against rad fem positions how what i do and how i see it being transferable to be a industry standard why is sex female why do we need sex arts how the body can save the human Read More "Ideas Of Things To Write"
Weeding
Does anyone struggle with weeding/control of nature for human aesthetics? I’m renting and I have to tell my landlord I can’t clear out the wilderness around my mailbox!!! There are so many lady birds and pretty flowers there. Read More "Weeding"
Weed Women Kicked Me Out So I Made My Own Place
Welcome ladies. I have made this space for the few women who I feel very safe and comfortable around from the entwives server. I am missing the original VC vibes we had, and have heard similar from some of you. The social element of my autism and co morbidities are so debilitating that I have to be aware of my limits with most people and not afraid to set up a space that works for me. You are the first women Ive connected to in years and I dont want to loose the magic we’ve had cause I’m uncomfortable in the main space. Read More "Weed Women Kicked Me Out So I Made My Own Place"
Crazy Idea
Document coming off medication and how insane I am and how extreme the world would have to change for my reality to fit. Read More "Crazy Idea"
How I See The World And How I Think It Should Be, Based On A Life Time Of Being Me.
Basic Run Down Of How I See The World How I See The World And How I Think It Should Be, Based On A LifeTime Of Being Me. The foundation stone of my theory is the human animal. What is best for the human animal body and mind, in nature. If we strip back all stories, conditioning, believes, knowledge, understanding, assumption of what it is to be a human being in this modern world, we can start to uncover our fundamental human needs and motivations. These things should be the driving forces and central elements to human life. i see these fundamental elements for the human animal to survive as; sustenance, shelter, security, exploration, play, intimacy, pleasure and rest. The core of the human society is intimacy and connection. We are a social sexual species. I follow the interpretation of the human that stems from observations of the bonobo, and detailed in “Sex At Dawn”. We are a matriachal sexual society. Our tribes were held together by intimacy and intimacy is how we mixed with different tribes. Intimacy is all types of physical touch including sex acts. A spectrum of touch from platonic to familiar to sexual. It has been theorized that the natural human sexuality, genetalia, and social structures are based off us being a sperm competition species. Its the natural human females natural sexuality to have group sex during ovulation to get the best sperm of the tribe. Our internat biology is designed to find the right sperm for the egg, rather than the woman find the right man to be the father. There was no competition over sex. Sex was the most abundant resource available to the human animal, Our lack of a thick body hair speaks to me of the importance of skin on skin contact… Read More "How I See The World And How I Think It Should Be, Based On A Life Time Of Being Me."
Why Me? What Do I Know?
I want to let everyone know I exist. Because my story is unique. I’ve intentionally lived my life that way. To learn things and see things in my own way. I cant pin down the earliest date I realized the whole world was made up. But I do know that by the age of 9, Blur was my favorite band and I knew I never wanted to be a part of the rat race. Growing up is a scam. Modern life is rubbish. When I was really little, when people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, in the late 80s, before the internet and pornography, I would say, “A poser, a poledancer or a prostitute.” No one knows how I knew what those last two things were. But the videos of me asking my mom to video me constantly, prove I already knew what a poser was! I had my first boyfriend at 3. I just always loved boys. They were so pretty. He was my best friend. In year 6 I asked out every boy at school, and every one of them said yes! In year 4 three boys in the year above would pick me up and run away with me so they could be my boyfriend. I still have the scar on my leg from when one of them dropped me over his head, off his shoulders. I always had crushes on the boys that didn’t like me or weren’t interested in me though. The cutest, the naughtiest, the uninterested. Even pre puberty. I had a recurring dream of a boy up in a tree, in a play area, out the back of a pub. There were lots of other children playing there. But more than anything, I knew I loved… Read More "Why Me? What Do I Know?"
Body Connection
If I could teach, the world to stand, in perfect harmony. Then every boy, and every girl, would know what physical ease can be. Read More "Body Connection"
Sex Work Dynamic
Its really upsetting that women cant hear about how I can control the dynamic in the sex work act. They cannot even comprehend that at woman isnt there to be used by a man.That a woman can control a sexual room. The enduring narrative of the brothels was that no matter how the dudes presented in the waiting room, they turned into little puppies in the bedroom. I must have some kind of way with men that has enabled me to handle this work in a way I havent heard from anyone else. I dont want to be smug about me doing it so well.. But obviously I have done things in ways that have kept me and my clients, happy, healthy and safe. I am confident. I know it is my room. My belief that as a sex worker i am like a band, a dj, a artist, a professional. People are here to experience me and my reality, not for me to be there to bend and shape to their needs. I am not a jukebox, a wedding singer, or a body to be controlled by the user. I am the one with the professional sexual knowledge and experience to define what will bring both parties the most pleasure possible. Men dont know what they are doing in the bedroom and visiting a professional means they can lay back, relax and not have to perform their standard sexual narratives and have performance pleasure. The man laying back while I do all the work isnt my idea of sexual liberation or equality. but in the standard narrative dynamic, this is the easiest way for the man to give me space to get them to interact in the way I want. Its very easy to keep things on track and… Read More "Sex Work Dynamic"
Forming My Karen Opinion
I really think “karen” is just another way to silence angry women. Oh no. Someone is demanding good service cause they are sick and tired of being fucked over, and over and over. And one day you snap. And everyone attacks. Instead of wandering why she snapped. Women are so fucked over that a woman expressing her anger is seen as something awful. Read More "Forming My Karen Opinion"
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