Yes All Men, But…
Yes all men but not blame all men. As women all we can do is figure out what we need, And how to get our needs met. We can ask men for their part in meeting their needs. At the same time men need to be doing the same, finding their unifying maleness and what they need, from first principles. And share their needs and ask for our part in that. And see how they fit! Then figure it out! Just the fundamentals. First Principles. A constitution for the sexual human body. Read More "Yes All Men, But…"
The Reason Its Yes All Men, To Me.
The reason it is “yes all men” to me is that the numbers I’ve personally experienced don’t match with any other claim. I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t been sexually harassed (unwanted touching and above), raped or suffered partner abuse, were abused as children, and some or all of the above. Now, I have been raped 5 times. I have been in 1 extremely abusive relationship that broke my entire self for 6 years after, and another that got me addicted to cocaine. I have been inappropriately touched by literally countless men in bars and nightclubs (even though I expect it in that scenario, should I think its normal and ok?). I used to write down the “compliments” men would shout out their car or van windows to me as I walked to university and wear them with pride, I tried to take ownership of the constant onslaught of unwanted sexual attention. At a absolute minimum, I have had 20 men lay hands on my body and alter my brain, without my consent. Of these 20 men, only one would think of himself as someone who has harmed a woman. The first rapist was arrested for statutory rape. The 4 other men who used my body when I was passed out, thought they were just fucking a easy chick they got lucky with. The man who destroyed my sense of self and ability to function, didn’t think there was anything wrong with him. The boy who got me addicted to coke so I would buy it for him while I paid him to work for me and live with me, all while his other woman was in another city, was “just having a good time”. And the faceless hands in the nightclubs were attached to men too drunk… Read More "The Reason Its Yes All Men, To Me."
First Principles
Elon Musks’ “3-Step” First Principles Thinking: How to Think and Solve Difficult Problems Like a Genius In layman’s terms, first principles thinking is basically the practice of actively questioning every assumption you think you ‘know’ about a given problem or scenario — and then creating new knowledge and solutions from scratch. Almost like a newborn baby. On the flip side, reasoning by analogy is building knowledge and solving problems based on prior assumptions, beliefs and widely held ‘best practices’ approved by majority of people. People who reason by analogy tend to make bad decisions, even if they’re smart. Mayo Oshin Read More "First Principles"
Left/Right
left and right is just different ways of looking at the world Free speech Its exciting to challenge core beliefs Exhilarating Fear of the power of language to corrupt the masses – left right – worries that actions will corrupt the masses. Interesting development in free speech could define where I need to live Will free speech or protected speech produce the fastest progress? There is no identity until someone else looks at it. devils advocate is critical thinking, scientific process Left – externalise blame and externalise trauma corral the bad people and you can feel ok. Read More "Left/Right"
Resilience
We aren’t as resilient as previous generations and the less resilient we become, the less resilient the future generations become. Currently resilience is either taught through abuse, or neglect. Through being a hard ass parent and forcing you to be resilient, which builds resentment. The other way is through neglect, like with me. You learn resilience through not having any skills and then being traumatized and having to learn resilience. Not enough people are taught how to be resilient in a healthy way. It should be standard parenting practice. Our bodies and minds need to be resilient and capable of dealing with reality. Resilience is the skills and mental state to cope with the reality of the world and your life within it, enabling you to thrive and not be swayed by anything outside of you. The strength, understanding and skills to not be subjected to your own emotions and feelings and deal with the constant onslaught of external existential threats we are manipulated to fear, in order to freeze us. Don’t be frozen by feelings. Learn to be resilient so you can be moved to do something to fix the problem, or just live life. Read More "Resilience"
Tinder Bio Advice For Guys
Here you go. When I was deep into the daily scroll, this is the information I would have liked to see, to get a real vibe of someone and not waste time!!! Tinder bio advice: A few examples of what you like, but with range; ie, “Im into dirtbikes, [podcast/tv/media interest], [other activity]. A idea of what youre looking for: ie Just looking/New to this/Im looking for something casual/I love going on dates/I am ready for a relationship/I’m looking for the one….written in your voice. An idea if youre indoorsy or outdoorsy. An idea if you prefer to party or stay home. Something to hint at your personality, if youre funny, a joke. A comment on something you like. Something youre excited about coming up for you. Pictures: Have different angles, some face, some doing stuff. One dimensional pics make it look like youre hiding something. Orrrr if youre just a horny bloke and want to be honest about it… Dick Size Sexual interests Things you’re looking to try/explore/do more of. What you’re looking for: Some cool chick who is down to fuck and act like adults about it. Whether you want to wine and dine her first, or if youre just down for the 69ing.A few examples of what you like, but with range; ie, “Im into dirtbikes, [podcast/tv/media interest], [other activity]. Something to hint at your personality, if youre funny, a joke. A comment on something you like. Something youre excited about coming up for you. Pictures: Have different angles, some face, some doing stuff. One dimensional pics make it look like youre hiding something. Show the damn torso topless doing an activity! Maybe a cheeky nude with a towel hanging off the giant dong!!! Read More "Tinder Bio Advice For Guys"
Aspie Cam Girl Problems
Im not in the right mood for cam today. I am way too real me who wants to act like the grown, intelligent, aspie woman I am. Apparently if you are like that you cant also be sexual and horny. I cant be this real me as they just dont understand it. Which makes me dig in more. Why should I have to lower myself to their level….cause money bitch thats why!!! Read More "Aspie Cam Girl Problems"