Basic Run Down Of How I See The World
How I See The World And How I Think It Should Be, Based On A LifeTime Of Being Me.
The foundation stone of my theory is the human animal. What is best for the human animal body and mind, in nature. If we strip back all stories, conditioning, believes, knowledge, understanding, assumption of what it is to be a human being in this modern world, we can start to uncover our fundamental human needs and motivations. These things should be the driving forces and central elements to human life.
i see these fundamental elements for the human animal to survive as; sustenance, shelter, security, exploration, play, intimacy, pleasure and rest. The core of the human society is intimacy and connection. We are a social sexual species. I follow the interpretation of the human that stems from observations of the bonobo, and detailed in “Sex At Dawn”.
We are a matriachal sexual society. Our tribes were held together by intimacy and intimacy is how we mixed with different tribes. Intimacy is all types of physical touch including sex acts. A spectrum of touch from platonic to familiar to sexual. It has been theorized that the natural human sexuality, genetalia, and social structures are based off us being a sperm competition species. Its the natural human females natural sexuality to have group sex during ovulation to get the best sperm of the tribe. Our internat biology is designed to find the right sperm for the egg, rather than the woman find the right man to be the father.
There was no competition over sex. Sex was the most abundant resource available to the human animal, Our lack of a thick body hair speaks to me of the importance of skin on skin contact for the human animal. Intimacy would have occurred between all members of the tribe. There would have been same sex attracted animals, alpha males and females, bisexual humans. There wouldnt have been a de liniation between sexual touch and non sexual touch. As no touch, or sex was taboo. It just was how we interacted as animals. It was how we communicated. It was how we connected. The body was our communication and connection canvas.
Skipping ahead. At some point, cause of power, money, greed and laziness, the agricultural revolution, caused sex to become a scarece recourse.
In an antempt to become civilized, man dropped the animal. Territory of land became more important than the territory of their own bodies. And sex became the tool by which to control the animal. By introducing the family unit, limiting access to women, owning women, needing a clear lineage to pass on land, owning a womans sex become an important part of keeping power and owning land. To increase the scarcity of intimacy, people were lead to believe it was dirty, taboo, only for relationships and love, that it is to be like a dirty animal to be wild. humans are better than that.
The more scarce a rescouse the more violent it makes accessing the resource.
Today we are sold sex appeal. We are inundated with sexual images. But told still, that sex is bad, in all ways.And that you can want it, but not have it. We are more disconnected from our bodies than ever. A lot of people live so much online that they are completely disconnected rom their bodies and want to disown them. The more disconnected we are from the body, the more disconnected we are from each other, and from what makes us human. It is no wonder the world is having a mental health epidemic. The mental and physical realities havent caught uo with each other, and never should. We are having a breakdown of the physical human body and thus the individual and collective mind. The way forward isnt deeper into the brain, more online. Its into the body. Unifying the body/mind. Realizing our intelligence comes from our bodies. Our minds are just there to filter and process our physical experiences.We should not be ruled by the mind.
Sex is suppressed to keep the workers trapped in the system. I believe the only way to change the world and give people back some sense of freedom and power, is to give them back their bodies. And to give them that through sex and intimacy.
For ease of the simpler minded, I’m gonna say sex work and porn as it is, needs to go. But the concepts of sexual entertainment and an intimacy industry do not need to go.
I have seen no plan as to how to change the whole of the male human races sexuality, libido and current sexual narratives. But I have a plan. The sex arts would be a matriachal industry. sex artists could be male or female, as can clients. Services of any kind of intimacy are available and anyone working in the industry can specialize in what they like. Hand holding, stroking, cuddling, skin on skin contact, platonic, sexual, sex. The whole spectrum. There would be safe spaces for these services. Sex artists would be trained int he same way massesues and other physical work, or any another career in the world is. There would be standards and tests and it wouldnt need to be seen as taboo and dirty. Sex and the body is the only thing that can save us.
We need to stop seeing sex as they magical thing connected to romantic love and attraction and passion and swirling and taboo. Its the physical act that unifies the human race. All contact sports are modern societies way of men playing together in the wild, testing boundaries, using each others bodies to explore. They werent scared of what it meant if they touched another mans body, it was essential to life. But now its something only a few men do. They have lost the connection between men, as well as with themselves and the softness of women.
The sex arts and intimacy entertainement could be regulated to ensure the most up to date matriachal knowledge and wisdom of the body and mind is imparted to the world. We could all be on the same page about what is healthy human animal sexuality and bodies.
Bodies. It is the curse of individualism that we now have to accept all bodies. Body Positivity. It doesnt matter how dysfunctional your body is, you are beautiful. No youre not. I can see the decades of bad diet, bad posture, trauma, social conditioning and the patriarchy encoded in your body.
There is one human body. And it functions in the same way for all of us. We all have the same skellingtons and muscles. Its how we use them that shapes up. Dont lest disfunction shape the himan body. The more variety in our physical presentation, the more variation in how we experience the world and the more divided we will become as a people.
I can say personally that improving the state of my body, bringing it closer to its wild nature, had made me feel more grounded, real, stable, grown up, confident, less like a alien, i dont feel like everyone is staring at me, as I dont have the baseline feeling of presenting wrong in the world. knowing my body is different to the other animals. But not knowing what to do about it or why. It was just who i was. No. It isnt. it is bad posture, lack of body mind connection and mostly social conditioning. And that physical embodiment was how my mind experiences the world. Different, separate alone, disordered, misunderstood, in pain, never fit in,etc.
Fix the human body and you free the human mind. Give sex back to women and you fix mens sexuality.
On female sexualiyt, It is cyclical. It is soft, it is flirty, it is wanting, it is desperate, it is powerful, it is disconnected.
I believe the human animal has a sexual cycle. Around ovulation is the roaring lion, desperate for dick, gangbanging for a baby. There is the woman that just wants strokes all over her body and for it not to have to go anywhere. There is the woman that wants to do the stroking and giving love. There is the woman who doesnt want to be touched. There are the feet that would rather be rubbed. There is slow and intimate love making. There is the playful exploration of the new and the novel. There is a performative side, and a insecure side. A woman that just wants a quick orgasm. And a woman that just wants to breathe in time for hours.
If all the variations of female sexuality were let be, then I think, men would get all the physical things they need. When men run sex they forget how soft, playful, intimate and light it can be. It becomes penis centric, pumping for a goal. Let women expand what sex is, and men will start to be able to recieve the softer side of sexuality. Let women be as wild as they want when they want to be, no shame, no kink, no taboo.. Then men will finally see how women really can be when they are allowed to be free with their sexuality. They will get the wild woman, and also the soothing mother, the flirty girl and the sensual lover, they will have softness and intimacy to bring more balance into their levis. And men in soft and safe spaces tend to open up more, about what is on their minds.
There is no way to think of feminism or a better future for all without addressing mens sexuality. Taking away access to sexual services will only increase sexual scarecity. In any society. There will also always be a sexial hierarchy. Any future with comfort for all needs to address the natural hiarachiacl nature of the sexual human animal.
If the intimacy industry were not taboo, dangerous, or pimped, then people who are genuinely sexual and believe in the future of sexual equaluty and the liberation of the human body, will be able to work in the intimacy industry. There are many very sexual people who would just never work in the current sex industry cause of stigma, taboo, safety, etc. But would love to do it if the world were different.
Intimacy workers dont need to be people forced into the work or doing if cause they have to. I personally think “sex work” is the wrong concept for what I do and believe in. Sex art. The Intimacy Arts. Cause its not just a job anyone can do. It takes certain very specific talents and abilities and should also have physical requirements. Its not a job anyone can do. Its a passion, a calling.
It will take a army of committed intimacy artists to change the attitudes of men towards, sex, women, intimacy and the body. But I think its the only way. Without intimacy entertainment and sex artisits, the message will never spread. Men havent listened to men the last 60 years weve been saying we want good sex, so why would they start now?
By flipping the world on its head, and making the most precious thing to the human race, that is currently most scarce, something that is a common language, that we all share, the human body and its need for intimacy, into the most abundant resource and reducing the violence that comes from scarcity.
