My feeling of being waste material stuck to my soul early in life, and it’s been my biggest challenge to release that sense of worthlessness.
By Eva Angvert Harren
What is it about relationships that’s so hard to get?
I know that “everybody” has challenges with relationships, however when you are on the Spectrum, and socially blind, the odds against you are so much greater.
How can we keep friendships going without losing ourselves? Losing ourselves by people pleasing, or allowing behaviors that do not feel good to us?
How can we learn to put our Self first, our sense of self, our feelings of integrity and truth for us? How can we feel intact in who we want to be, and still have room for a friend or two? How do we do that?
I was overwhelmed with fear and shame, unable to see how that effected my behaviors. That debilitating feeling of fear … hundreds of forms of fear. And when I take a look at them, and follow the thread to the root cause, it always boils down to two things. Like they say in the twelve-step programs: I am either afraid of not getting what I want, or I am afraid of losing what I have. Bottom line!
Afraid of not getting love, approval, protection, respect and such. Or, afraid I will lose love, approval, protection, respect, or maybe a loved one, a job, a business opportunity, or the likes.
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