“Sex positivity and acceptance of sex work were never meant to be about people openly embracing their unconventional kinks while performing societal roles that perhaps shouldn’t be filled by such individuals. The original intention was different from what it has become. What I was advocating for was the acceptance that some people genuinely enjoy sex, and that doesn’t automatically make them bad people as long as they act ethically. Having a healthy attitude toward sex doesn’t inherently make someone morally deficient.
Sex is a fundamental part of life, and too many people feel shame or discomfort about their own sexuality. I believe everyone should be happy and comfortable with this aspect of being human. People who enjoy sex should be able to pursue careers that are unrelated to their sex lives without judgment. For instance, someone who enjoys certain kinks shouldn’t be a politician or hold a position that involves working with children. It’s essential to recognize the full spectrum of human sexuality and understand that none of it inherently makes someone a bad person.
However, there are boundaries. Engaging in certain behaviors publicly, like indulging in specific kinks, can be problematic. It’s okay to kink-shame someone if their actions are harmful or inappropriate. When I chose to work as a cam model, I understood that it would impact my ability to work with children. But the current state of affairs is disheartening. Sex positivity was meant to promote healthy attitudes and happiness, not to justify harmful behavior.
Ultimately, it’s crucial to find what’s right for you, embrace your preferences, and not let them negatively affect others. Be honest, set your own moral standards, and strive to be a decent person. After all, everyone has sex, and how central it is to your life doesn’t define your character.”
